The Danger of Believing Too Strongly in Love at First Sight

You might be wondering why I'm giving love at first sight such a bad rap. It's not that I don't think the idea is sweet, or that I don't love me some romantic movies. (My favorite love at first sight scene's gotta be this one from Romeo and Juliet.)

But it's wrong to think that if you don't have intense feelings right away, it could never be love. Some of the best and strongest relationships started out in totally unromantic ways.

More importantly, though, the halo effect can be dangerous. If you see someone hot and assume that what you feel is love, you'll overlook qualities in them that could end up hurting you. You might let them get away with abusive behavior because your heart has taken over your better judgment.

Love is More than Just Looks

Everyone's got a different take on what love is, but few people believe that's made out of stuff you can find just by looking at someone. Love (at least if you ask me) is made up of compromise, empathy and patience. You can't give or get those sorts of things at first sight.

That doesn't mean that your initial feelings can't turn into love. When you first see someone, you might instantly know that you want to get close to them and learn about them. As your relationship progresses, those feelings might eventually grow into love. But is "love" really the word for your gut reaction? Not unless your definition of love is kinda superficial.

Is Your Mind Playing Tricks on You?

Have you ever seen someone and instantly felt attracted to every part of them, including their personality (even though you haven't even talked to them yet)? You might be quick to call it love at first sight, but it's probably what psychologists call the attractiveness halo effect. When you see someone who looks great, your brain sometimes jumps to the conclusion that their personality must be great, too.

We all know that not everyone's looks and personalities match up. Some attractive people are total jerks, and some of the best people in the world aren't what you'd necessarily think of as hot. So the halo effect is really just an illusion. Your sudden feelings of love might go away as soon as you get to know the person better.

10 Things You Need to Know About Love.....

1. Love does not hurt. Physical and/or emotional abuse are not a part of love.
2. Love is not manipulative, it should not be used to get others to do what you want. You should never give in to demands based on the, "You would do it if you loved me!" tactic.
3. Love is an intense feeling of caring for another person. It can take many different forms (romantic, friendly, familial) but it is always about caring.
4. Although it is true that a big part of love is putting another person's happiness ahead of your own this never includes compromising your values or being untrue to yourself.
5. If somebody asks you to do something that you don't want to do in order to "prove" your love they do not love you the way you might think they do. When you love another person you don't ask them to sacrifice a part of themselves in the name of that love.
6. It is very easy to confuse lust for love. The true measure of romantic love is commitment and trust not physical attraction.
7. It is possible to feel romantic love for more than one person at a given time. Just think, if it is possible for you to love both of your parents at the same time why would it be impossible to feel romantic love for two people at once? Don't beat yourself up emotionally if you find yourself in this unhappy situation. But be sure to remain single and be open and honest with all parties about your feelings and confusion.
8. Sex is NOT love. Love is NOT sex. Sex can be a part of romantic love but it is never mandatory.
9. Romantic love can (and often does) fade. When it goes there is not always a reason. When somebody falls out of love with you it does not reflect upon your value as a person or your desirability.
10. Love should make you feel happy, secure and appreciated.

THE ONE AND ONLY....

The most wonderful of all things in life is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a growing depth, beauty and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of divine accident, and the most wonderful of all things in life.

STOP THE VIOLENCE !!!!

Drugs all over under the ground.
Guns, people crying, putting each other down.
People every day do crazy things.
Buying fancy cars and a lot ofrings.
You have nothing to show for yourself.
You're dying on the inside,and you have bad health.
I wonder what the community can do.
I have no idea, not even a clue.
I look in the paper and I see someone dead.
They layon the stretcher like it was a bed.
The mothers stand in silence.
People should think TO STOP THE VIOLENCE!!!

REALIZE...

To realize the value of ten years:Ask a newly divorced couple.
To realize the value of four years: Ask a graduate.
To realize the value of one year: Ask a student who has failed a final exam.
To realize the value of nine months: Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.
To realize the value of one month: Ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby.
To realize the value of one week: Ask an editor of a weekly news paper.

To realize the value of one hour: Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.
To realize the value of one minute: Ask a person who has missed the train, bus or plane.
To realize the value of one second: Ask a person who has survived an accident.
To realize the value of one millisecond: Ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics.
Time waits for no one. Treasure every moment you have.
You will treasure it even more when you can share it with someone special.
To realize the value of a friend: Lose one.

3 THINGS OF LIFE

3 things of life that once gone never comes back :

Time, words & opportunity

3 things of life that must not be lost :

Peace, hope & honesty

3 things of life that are most valuable :

Love, self-confidence & friends

3 things of life that are never sure :

Dreams, success & fortune

3 things that makes a man/Woman :

Hard work, sincerity & success

3 things in life that destroys a man/Woman :

Wine, pride & anger

So, it's wrong to say :

Life is three -> food & sex & to be free !

THE RULES OF D HAPPY LIFE

Remember these five simple rules to be happy:

1-Free your heart from hatred.

2-Free your mind from worries.

3-Live simply.

4-Give more.

5-Excpect less.

LOVE IS EVERYTHING

To me nothing is more important then love. I would trade anything to have something special with someone special. I think it is Gods greatest gift to man. Love is life. I have only briefly encountered what might have been love. I am so afraid I will never truly know it, I feel like it is so important to me and I know you cannot try to fall in love, it just happens. Sometimes I feel like im to concerned with it. I know I just have to sit back and let things happen.

WAY TO GENERATE LOVE

-	Forgive - Forgiveness is a wonderful way to release the past and to love unconditionally.  Drawing a line behind you, you can free yourself of limitations and be at peace with the process of life. Move forward to new beginnings.
-	Meditate - sit quietly, breath deeply, visualize your heart as a blazing orb of light
-	Be still in any moment of confusion, fear or anxiousness and focus on your breath. In the stillness comes the solution
-	Look into a mirror and see yourself as for the first time and say, "I love myself Unconditionally."
-	Journal - write out your feelings to better help yourself understand who you think you are and how you really view yourself.
-	Hug someone.
-	Hug yourself.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

Unconditional Love is a dynamic and powerful energy that lifts us through the most difficult times.  It is available at any moment by turning our attention to it and using its wonderful potential to free us from our limitations.  It requires practice and intent to allow this energy to fully permeate our daily experience. It begins with ourselves, for without self-love, we cannot know what true love can be.  In loving ourselves, we allow the feeling to generate within us and then we can share it to everyone and everything around us!  That which we send out, returns to us in greater measure.  If you have not thought about how you feel towards yourself, physically, mentally, and emotionally, or spiritually, we invite you to do so now.  Begin the journey that changes everything.  Begin the journey of unconditional love...

LIVING WITH LOVE

The power of love is held within each of us every moment. This wondrous energy is available merely by our use and conscious recognition. When we choose to love one another we transcend the lower personality perceptions and rise to a higher truth. We recognize our oneness, wholeness and interconnectedness. 

This is not a conditional love or the type of love one may try to use to earn favors or expect validation, rather this is a universal and unconditional love that recognizes the beauty in life every moment. It is of a higher nature. It is a natural expression that does not expect an outcome. It is giving just for the sake of giving.

It is in the sharing and giving of love to others that we receive the same that we give. Give love and surely you will experience love itself. Express love to the world around you and the world will reflect back to you the power of love. 

Each of us desires to understand and realize this experience of love. Just listen to the lyrics of music and you will quickly see how much the notion of love plays a part in our personal journey of life. We seek it in our families, relationships, careers, religions, hobbies, and even at times we look to nature itself. All the while, it is right within us ready to be given out and experienced.

Love is such a powerful force especially when shared. 

A NEW RESOLVE

Who will you be in the future? How do you want to experience life? Will you be more kind, gentle, forgiving, tolerant and loving? Or will you continue to give your power away to the fear and doubt that is so prevalent right now in our society?  The choice is ultimately yours.  

Might we suggest a resolution to love unconditionally? (No need to wait until New Year's when "every moment of every day is a new beginning" - H. Becker)  Within you is an unlimited supply of love and you hold the key to its release.  Fear and doubt, anger and hate, have no more control over our lives than we allow.  Can it be that simple?  It really is.  Loving is a choice we can make every moment.

Begin with yourself.  Realize that you are a powerful, spiritual and angelic being and can create with love.  Take care of your thoughts and feelings and make sure they reflect the positive you.  Also observe your actions and insure that they have a loving intent too.

Even when our emotions get the best of us and the stress and concerns of life become a bit overwhelming, just remember we have tools of forgiveness, meditation, visualization and letting go to assist us in overcoming the negative experiences we encounter each day.  Some things just are not worth worrying about or holding on to.

When you are clear and receptive to your own higher, loving nature, you can then direct this love to people and places around you.  Your peace becomes the peace for others.  Your love becomes the love other people feel.

Be the angel you are and choose to live freely and joyfully.  In doing so, you make this a better world to live and love in! 

POWER OF PEACE

So many people are calling, praying and demanding peace upon our beloved planet right now.  Let us all be reminded that true peace is found when we are at peace within.  Be at peace and you create a world of peace. Do not just pray for peace, become peace itself. 

Take the time to find the natural peace that resides within and you add to the real feeling of peace to everyone and everything around you.  Let go of your fears and doubts and that of others.  Be extremely discerning in what you focus your attention upon right now and question the messages and reflections.  If it is loving, expand it.  If it is less than loving, critical or in any way invokes hatred, fear or anger, release it and return to peace. 

It is an amazing time and many would like to make you think that doom and despair, fear and attack, are waiting around every corner.  Don't believe it. Create your own pictures of reality and fill them with peace and love.  Walk in joy and harmony and know that all is well.

You can add your energy to this vision by contemplating peace and tapping into the higher desire for peace at any moment.  This is especially helpful when you choose a particular time each day (for example 9 p.m.) to feel and think about peace for a few minutes, building a sustainable rhythm and habit.

ACTS OF LOVE

When we allow ourselves to understand the impact our actions have not only on ourselves but the planet we live on, we realize the necessity to take loving action. We each have the power to correct conditions within as well as to affect the world we live in. 

There are so many ways to apply love in our everyday lives. Yet, if we do not take care of ourselves, it is virtually impossible to feel and share love with the world around us. As an act of self-love, we can begin to educate ourselves and learn to take care of our physical bodies as well as keep our thoughts and feelings positive and loving. Nurturing ourselves also teaches us how to nurture life around us. 

Practice constant acts of kindness and you bring kindness upon this planet.  Forgiveness is the easiest and most powerful act of kindness you can make.  Both for yourself and for others, this activity promotes unity, harmony and oneness that transmutes the old into the new.

This magnificent planet is filled with opportunities to experience love, respect, peace and joy. When we, as individuals, realize our potential to love unconditionally, we transform ourselves and the planet at the same time. Such is the power we wield every moment of every day. The choice is ours to create a world of joy and happiness, love and goodwill.

Every moment of every day is a new beginning. This can be a powerful mantra or affirmation. The meaning held in these words opens us to a new way of living and experiencing life.  Each moment holds a new beginning of possibility and an opportunity to create without limitation. We can let go of what we perceive or believe is before us and allow our personal potential to shine through.  Start each day as a new journey of self discovery. Let go of yesterday and tomorrow and embrace the power of now. Remind yourself daily of the newness of life in the moment.